Session 4 - The chocolate meditation
When one eats chocolate we generally place the chocolate in our mouths, crunch on it, get a quick burst of the taste and move on to the next piece.
We could say that this is a mindless way of experiencing the chocolate - which is a shame because eating a small piece of chocolate mindfully can bring many pleasures. 
When we can give ourselves time to be mindful of our experiences - to observe our thoughts, bodily sensations and the urges within us, we can't be automatically reactive to them at the same time.
We simply cannot deliberately focus on one thing and do something else.
This is where mindfulness gives you the power to step back from your autopilot and manage your responses to anger triggers in a more positive way.
Your mindfulness practice for session 4

Although the chocolate meditation is described as an eating meditation it goes far beyond just eating a piece of chocolate - you are going to experience it.
You are going to spend approximately 5 minutes exploring the experience of the slowly dissolving piece of chocolate and the after tastes.
From a wellbeing perspective - you are not eating chocolate to make yourself feel better.
You are being introduced to this exercise as another means of learning how to focus your attention on the present and stepping off autopilot when it tries to send you in a direction that impacts on your wellbeing.
Some examples may include when we:
- Feel stressed, anxious, fearful, tense or angry.
- Have low mood or maybe experience negative or irrational thoughts.
- Feel negative emotions such as sadness, disappointment.
- When we feel the urge to be reactive to these.
Mindfulness practice is here to help you step back and refocus your awareness and let the autopilot of the moment pass through.
If we choose to mindfully focus on a chosen present moment experience we cannot also follow it on autopilot.
Further guidance
- Practice once with the chocolate meditation recording below and then a further 2 times with separate pieces of chocolate. Spread out the practice over the day. The guide is for 3 practice sessions today but feel free to do more and moving forward, continue to practice this meditation and aim to introduce other items: orange segments, boiled sweets...
- If you can aim to use 3 different types of chocolate for each separate meditation, i.e. dark, milk and white chocolate.
- When each piece of chocolate has dissolved, stay with the lingering tastes in your mouth before moving on to a new piece of chocolate.
- With each step of the meditation, be curious to the tastes in your mouth just as if you have never experienced them before just like we did with the raisin meditation -n every opportunity you have, 'awaken the raisin mind'.
- If you notice distraction by thoughts or sensations, note the distractions and return back to the tastes in your mouth.
The guided recording
Below is the guided recording for the chocolate meditation. It lasts for approximately 5 minutes. As with all your mindfulness practices, be patient with yourself.
Mindfulness is something to be learned - not perfected straight away.
Before you start, make sure you have read the guiding notes on mindfulness and meditation and for the best results listen to the guided recordings with headphones.
The cognitive awareness exercise
Where could I have been more mindful today?
The cognitive awareness exercise is ongoing so you can continue to create an awareness of your triggers.
- ”I could have been more mindful of my thoughts this morning when my wife was asking me to tidy the kitchen. My thoughts were that she was being critical of me for not sharing the tasks when in fact she was simply asking me to help make her morning easier to manage ”.
- ”I got angry with Mike in the office. I knew I was getting tense so I could have mindful of the tense feelings I was experiencing. I could have stepped back from the discussion and utilised a breath meditation”.
- “I became frustrated when I was driving home as the traffic was bad. My wife called me to ask what time I would be home. I shouted at her for asking me stupid questions. I could have just said that because of the traffic I didn’t know but would keep her informed once the traffic started moving”.
It’s important that you give full attention to this exercise and make notes in your journal to continue to develop an awareness of your anger triggers.
The stalwart of your mindfulness practice - the breath meditations.
Your next session - session 5
Session 5 is going to introduce you to our train metaphor.
We all find ourselves in situations where we have a feeling where it is going to end up but continue nonetheless.
The train metaphor is going to help you learn an important mindfulness skill where you are gong to start paying more attention to your interactions.
You are going to be guided on how to take a pause and re-set the moment so you don't automatically end up at a destination where you don't want to end up.
From an anger management perspective - the destination is one where you have difficult interactions, where you feel irritated, frustrated, overwhelmed...any moment where you feel the destination will be unpleasant for you or others.