Session 12 - The gratitude meditation

Mindfulness is a state of intentional, non-judgmental focus on the present moment. Mindfulness techniques are often incorporated into other practices, such as yoga or meditation. It is often thought to include the following elements:



 

  • Awareness – Being tuned in to what is happening in the present moment, including sights, sounds, smells, or physical sensations you might usually ignore.

 

 

  • Focus – Paying attention to the present moment, without thinking about past or future events.

 

 

  • Acceptance – Accepting whatever you might be feeling or thinking, without judging it or trying to change it or your reactions.

 

 

  • Observation – Recognising unpleasant sensations, thoughts, and feelings as temporary and fleeting, observing them objectively without reaction or judgment.

 

  • Facts about the effects of mindfulness

    A mindful person is reflective rather than reactive. They focus on the present moment. 


    Mindfulness is a process that leads to a mental state characterised by non-judgmental awareness of the present experiences, such as sensations, thoughts, bodily states, and the environment. It enables us to distance ourselves from our thoughts and feelings without labelling them as good or bad.


    Let’s Remember How Mindfulness Works


    By focusing our attention on the present moment, mindfulness counteracts rumination and worrying. Worrying about the future (e.g. I better remember to pay those bills and clean my house this weekend) and ruminating about the past (e.g., I should have done this rather than that) are generally maladaptive thinking processes. 


    Of course, it is important to learn from our past and plan ahead for the future; however, when we spend too much time outside of the present moment, we can get depressed and anxious. In such cases, mindfulness can be an important tool for helping us to better focus on the present moment.


    Research has shown that mindfulness helps us reduce anxiety and depression and also is effective when we experience a whole host of negative emotions such as, stress, fears and anger. 


    Mindfulness teaches us how to respond to stress with awareness of what is happening in the present moment, rather than simply acting instinctively, unaware of what emotions or motives may be driving that decision. 


    By teaching awareness for one's physical and mental state in the moment, mindfulness allows for more adaptive reactions to difficult situations. 


    Mindfulness works through a number of ways. It encourages us to open up and accept our emotions. As a result, we are better able to identify, experience, and process our emotions. 


    Mindfulness also encourages us to see things from different perspectives. For example, if your spouse snaps at you, you might blame yourself and worry that you've done something to upset him/her. 


    If you are able to distance yourself from your immediate response of being hurt, you might remember that your spouse mentioned a hard day at work, and perhaps they snapped at you because they're tired and stressed out. 

Mindfulness practice for session 12

How often do you take time to experience internal gratitude towards the people in your life and the things that enhance your life? For most, we are too busy 'getting on with life' to take the time out. 


You only have to look on social media. Someone may make what might be considered an innocent post about something but it doesn't take long for the negative and judgemental comments to start which steers away from the good intentions of the original post.


Gratitude is about appreciation for what you have, (not what you don't have), how you got those things and for the people who made the good things possible. 

  • Introduction to the gratitude meditation

    Our gratitude meditation gives you the opportunity to focus on the things in your life that you are grateful for. 


    It boosts our feeling of wellbeing when we can experience a feeling of appreciation, whether for someone close to you, family or friend, a beautiful sunny day, or the pleasure of a good cup of coffee or a fine meal. 


    You can be grateful for big things in your life as well as the small whether you can touch them or not. We can show gratefulness after a successful recovery from an injury or illness, or a tough life lesson you weathered, where you came out the other side stronger and more confident.


    It’s easy to get caught up in current events and the negativity of the news cycle, but in fact those things often have little to do with who we are and how we experience the world on a day-to-day basis. A grateful meditation is not about becoming desensitised to suffering or social injustice, it’s a way of bringing us back to a place of personal reflection.


    The Gratitude Meditation


    The link below offers you our guided gratitude meditation. It gives you the time and space to enjoy some relaxation time and become in tune with things you may be grateful for, things that you might never pay attention to when you live your life mindlessly on autopilot.


    We can spend so much of our time wrapped up in the flow of the negative daily news that comes our way. We can be all too critical of things around us and show little appreciation for people who help to enhance our lives and our lifestyle. We can all fall foul to being dismissive of the smaller things in life even if it non-intentional.


    Schedule time during session 5 to experience the very enjoyable gratitude meditation. Allow 20 minutes; schedule time that you can devote to this meditation and where you will not be disturbed. As always, practice the meditations with earphones so you can be free from outside instructions. 

The Guided Gratitude Meditation Recording


Schedule time to experience the very enjoyable gratitude meditation. Allow 20 minutes; schedule time that you can devote to this meditation and where you will not be disturbed. 

The guided recording

Below is the guided recording for the gratitude meditation. It lasts for approximately 12 minutes.


Mindfulness is something to be learned - not perfected on the first day. 


Before you start, make sure you have read the guiding notes for todays practice and for the best results listen to the guided recordings with headphones. 

Take Time to Be Grateful in Your Day to Day Life


Enjoy the guided recording and bring the teachings of the meditation in to your day to day life. Take time to stop and be mindful of the things you are grateful for. So many things happen in your day to day life that you won't be short of things to show gratitude towards.


Spending just a minute or 2 each day to appreciate situations, people, objects and things in your life can be an amazing stress reliever and an enhance of your wellbeing. It helps you to bring your object of focus to positive and mindful thinking of things that bring joy to your life. 

  • An informal gratitude meditation

    This is a very quick daily exercise which will have a very powerful effect on your day and moment to moment wellbeing. 


    It doesn't really matter when you choose to practice this informal meditation. Some people use it as an anchor to prepare their mind for the day ahead. Others use it as a winding down mechanism at the end of the day; appreciating what the day has brought them and others choose this meditation to punctuate parts of their day to bring appreciative thoughts to the conscious awareness. 


    Because your mind can only think of one thing at once, while you are focusing on the good aspects of your life you are unable to focus on anything that may be not be quite as good.


    Some examples of what you may choose to bring to your awareness:


    • I appreciate my wife/parents/friends.
    • I appreciate my job which gives me stability and income.
    • I appreciate that it’s been a sunny day.
    • I appreciate that I’ve got my health.
    • I appreciate I’ve got eyes to see/ears/ability to walk.
    • I appreciate that work provides a chance to interact with other people and socialise.
    • I appreciate that I’ve can put food on the table when I want it.
    • I appreciate working with one or more colleagues who I like.
    • I appreciate all my friends and family.
    • I appreciate the ability to read and write.

    When you focus on things or people to be grateful for, aim to elaborate.


    For example:


    • You might have a gratitude for your wife, husband or partner. 

    • Allow yourself time to be with the reasons for the gratitude. 

    • What is it about this person?

    • What do they say or do that brings gratitude?

    • How do you feel when you think about this person in this way?

    Being grateful for something doesn't always mean you have to show it but do you ever show your partner that you are grateful for having them in your life?


    A mindless approach might be just saying you are grateful for something. The mindful approach is to be in tune with connecting with all aspects of your gratefulness.


    Being in tune with gratitude enhances our wellbeing. It can keep the critical mind in check and being more open to seeing how a moment really is rather than how the autopilot mind interprets it.


    An example:


    John was feeling irritated because his wife was 'nagging'. Because John has been experiencing gratitude thoughts towards his wife in previous days, he was able to be more mindfully open to being inquisitive to his wife's wishes rather than be reactive to his autopilot mind's interpretations.


    When he is aware of the interpretations his mind is making, he can choose to step back from the thoughts and focus on gratitude towards his wife rather than criticism.


    His response towards his wife will be a more positive one.  

  • Another example of gratitude

    Emma is experiencing much stress at work and feels overwhelmed when she gets home in the evening.


    She notices, at home in the evenings, she feels emotional with the feelings of overwhelment and feels that her life is full of unhappiness.


    This gives Emma the opportunity to step back from these autopilot thoughts and feelings and focus on things that are positive in her life which she is grateful for.


    When Emma starts to focus on the areas of gratitude she visualises these areas which bring up positive sensory feelings.


    So for Emma, taking time to be with the the thoughts and feelings of things in her life she is grateful for, she gives herself the opportunity to be in the moment with those rather than automatically following her autopilot mind and feelings of overwhelment.

Practice being mindful in your day to day life

Being more mindfully aware requires better cognitive awareness of your autopilot habits of behaviour. Each day you will pay a little more attention to moments in your day that feel a little negative for you. 


We are not looking to understand why you think the way you do or where it all comes from or even who is to blame. You are are simply aiming to be more mindfully and cognitively aware of how your mind is working, taking note of :


 

  • Thoughts that are running through your mind.


  • Emotional feelings you experience.


  • Bodily sensations you are experiencing?


  • Presenting emotions.
  • Your urges to respond or how you did respond.

 


When you become aware of any of these, give yourself the opportunity to:

  • Note whats's present.
  • Label it.
  • Re-focus with mindfulness and let the moment pass through.

 

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